Why do we always meet scum guys?

I found a very interesting thing, that is, many girls seem to have their own "scumbag boy attraction". They are looking for more and more scum, but they still enjoy being caught up in it.

Xiao Qi is such a person. I have been in love with countless hands, and each of them is a top scum. the basic scum is cheating on her back, chatting with all kinds of little girls on her back, downloading chatting software, registering the trumpet, no matter how coquettish comes from. If Xiao Qi didn't inadvertently see a chat screenshot in the scum man's mobile phone photo album one day, she didn't know that her boyfriend was "single" and "unloved".

there is another boyfriend who is prone to violence and often shoots his fist. When the two men quarreled for the first time, the boy slammed his cell phone on Xiao Qi and got an obvious black mark on his arm. after calming down, the boy was frightened and begged Xiao Qi not to break up and not to tell others. Xiao Qi looked at the boy with a sincere apology and chose to forgive. But this kind of forgiveness can not change anything, after countless quarrels, there are countless times of violence, and finally, Xiao Qi broke up and ended it completely.

the ex-boyfriend is even weirder. He broke up because of cheating, but he is a pretty boy when he is in love. Xiao Qi is not rich and beautiful, and her monthly pocket money is just enough to cover her expenses. after finding this boyfriend, she pays for dinner, she pays for travel, and boys always "forget their wallets." Later, when she complained to us about this, a friend asked her, "Then why didn't you break up at that time?" Xiao Qi: he didn't cheat at that time.

this wave of ideas for solving problems is 666.

the other day I chatted with Xiao Qi, reviewed her previous boyfriends, and finally discovered this wonderful fact: why are all scum men?

girls

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it is not difficult to find many girls with unfortunate feelings.

most of them have the same characteristic: have no backbone.

the object can do whatever he or she wants, and even if he gets hurt, he will find all kinds of excuses to give him a chance to do it again. Always feel that "I am his last straw", "I must be able to enlighten him and warm him", only to be hit in the face by reality again and again.

it is precise because of this masochistic mentality that the scum man dares to hurt you again and again. Because he knows that you will always lower the bottom line for him step by step, he is unscrupulous.

sometimes people are not scum, but their inferiority will expose their selfish and greedy nature when they encounter certain situations. Love needs to be guided, not blindly respected. Bottomless giving is not a good thing, and it is possible to induce the dark side of human nature.

guys

how to avoid looking for scum men? Or making scum men?

first of all, there must be principles.  set a bottom line for yourself in your relationship, what is acceptable and what is not acceptable, love is not the reason for everything to happen, and you don't need to use love as an excuse to make mistakes. If you encounter something you can't accept, you should first communicate, then judge, and finally, make a rational choice.

secondly, you should know how to protect yourself.  "the premise of love is to love yourself". If you don't even know how to cherish yourself, who will think that you deserve to be cherished? Some girls are used to playing the role of bitterness in the relationship, thinking that it can win the sympathy of most people, but in fact, the role of bitterness has been held for a long time, everyone is not surprised and disapprove of it, but think that you may be such a person.

who hasn't met a few scum men,

but who wants to meet scum men if they can?