What is home, what is love, what is happiness?

Wen | Jiuli

Source | Reading at ten o'clock (ID:duhaoshu)

concluding song: Chen Hengyuan-passing love letters

Home, Love, Happiness seem to be the simplest words, but they are also the most difficult to define.

once upon a time, I felt that home was a bondage, love was exciting, and happiness was wealth, fame and status.

later, after experiencing the ups and downs of life, I realized that

Home is warm because of fetters;

Love, the sweetest place, is actually staying together;

Happiness is not getting what you are trying to pursue, but not losing the peace and warmth you are used to.

many people may have experienced such a mental journey:

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when they were young, they felt that home was a bondage, a parent's nagging, and an irreconcilable intergenerational conflict.

We are eager to leave this home and go outside in search of freedom.

but with the growth of age, either experienced the beating of wind and rain outside, or experienced the experience of inner maturity, suddenly look back, only to find that we were so attached to home.

singer Deng Ziqi mentioned in the interview that when she was young, she hated living with her parents and felt that they were always binding themselves.

if you make a phone call at night, if you call for a long time, the phone will be confiscated.

she said that at that time, she could not see that behind her parents' doing this, she wanted to go to bed early, but only saw that she was not free.

she often talks back and quarrels with her parents, hoping that when she can, she will move out.

later, she started working and often came home late, and every time she came home, there was a bowl of hot soup waiting for her.

later, when she was too busy to go home, she began to miss her parents' nagging, the time she quarreled with her parents, and the bowl of hot soup on the table.

Home became the place where she most wanted to go back.

Home is like this. When you stay here, you often feel disgusted and full of dissatisfaction.

but eventually, it will become the softest corner of your heart and a fetter that can not be erased for the rest of your life.

because there is always a light on for you and a bed waiting for you to rest.

there, the husband holds up the umbrella for his wife, the wife builds a harbor for her husband, and the parents hold up a day for their children.

when we pack our bags and go away for our lives and dreams, home becomes the source of our strength and the place we want to go back for days.

it is said that the sunset is the end of the world.

whether the parents are in good health, his wife and children are still safe. Want to eat at home, want to sleep in the bed at home.

as a result, there is a large number of people returning home during the Spring Festival, and even if they are thousands of miles apart, even if it is difficult to get a vote, they have to try their best to go home.

Poet Moore said:  A man has traveled all over the world, returned home and found what he needs.

this world seems to be lively and full of flowers, but in the end, I find that those are not yours. Only when I have a home to go home is the real warmth that can be touched.

in the end, what worries you and really comforts you is the door that opens for you and the people who are waiting for you to go home.

there is a classic line in "50 first Love":

when you are young, you will want to fall in love many times, but as you get older, you finally realize that if you love someone, even if it takes a lifetime, it will not be enough.

in love, the palpitating heart at first sight is tempting, but when the hormones fade away, the most precious thing is to stay together and stay together in ordinary life.

in the Japanese TV series "it's your turn", actor Xiang Tai once made a touching confession to the female host Kenai.

Sinai Bixiang is too old to be 15 years old. Because of this age difference, she thinks there is no sense of security.

she told Xiangtai that with the growth of age, their values and interests will continue to change, and you will meet better people. By then, you may no longer love me.

Xiang replied: even if we all change and become completely different, I will still fall in love with you. Let's change many times together, appreciate the changes in each other, and like each other every time.

answer to that sentence:

it's not hard to get sparks when you just fall in love, but it's hard to stay together for a long time, because it requires not only love, but also wisdom and responsibility.

Love with a long stream is really very difficult.

need to face the insipidity after the passion fades, the triviality in firewood, rice, oil and salt, trivial disputes, of course, including a lot of head-on temptations.

some people can't stand it and break up. Some people endure, the initial passionate love, slowly turned into an insipid but determined love for each other.

most of the night when you are hungry, swearing went to the kitchen to make a bowl of steaming noodles for you;

after a big fight, you chased out and gave you an umbrella for slamming the door;

rarely sent roses, but remember that you don't eat onions;

don't save for two months.The salary buys a bag for you, but it will remind you to add clothes when it is cold.

author Su Cen said:

I have the best feeling that knowing someone will not leave you easily.

No matter what setbacks and temptations you go through, go around or walk back.

begins with falling in love at first sight, falls in love with each other, and ends with long-term love.

this is the best love.

many people think that happiness is getting a lot of things you want:

high status, amazing wealth, the right to say one thing, the envious eyes of everyone.

but life is actually a process of loss.

your parents will leave you, and you will slowly lose your health, not to mention the impermanence that is always elusive, no matter how rich or high you are, you can't really help you.

early last year, my friend Huanhuan was diagnosed with breast cancer.

before her illness, she had a lot of dissatisfaction with her life.

she feels that she earns too little and envies her friends who earn tens of thousands of yuan a month.

she thinks her husband is not considerate enough, and they quarrel sometimes.

she thinks her child's academic performance is not good enough and only ranks in the middle of the class. How can she go to a good university and find a good job?

when cancer came to her, she felt that her world was falling apart, and then she began to re-examine her previous life.

although she doesn't earn much, as a middle school teacher, she has a stable income and has no worries about food and drink.