This generation of men is not good, will the next one be better?

A girl who loves her work every day sent me an article, "Girl, this society owes you a boyfriend." the general view is:

strive to become a good tutor, gentle temperament, excellent and independent. After finally becoming a [high education, high income, high position], I wanted to take a break to pick a good man, but it turned out that I had no choice.

every time I talk to young single dogs about how to find a reliable boyfriend.

it's hard to avoid a sigh in the end. Is it true that men are not good enough for women?

the answer is complicated, but I would also like to share with you what I have seen.

| 01 growing up has turned those young people into greasy uncles

I remember more than ten years ago, when I was in high school and college. At that time, at the end of class, the young people all appeared with admiration. There is no house price, nor the gains and losses of adults. Between boys and girls, they are simply drawn by hormones.

I like you or I don't like you. I don't care if I can get it, just a smile is enough to lose my mind for several days.

but ten years later, the green boys have all become greasy uncles. After the reunion, the female students couldn't help complaining: girls don't seem to be much different from those in those years, and even many of them have become more beautiful and more foreign-looking. But the boy put on weight, a big belly, the hairline becomes higher, the mouth is "how are you doing", there is no sign of the teenager at that time.

what makes them change so fast that they don't seem to know it.

is pressure? Girls are just as stressed, no less than boys.

is there no outlet? So is there any reason for them to indulge in games and novels?

I think the real reason, not these, is that the growth of most men's spiritual world has almost stagnated and retrogressed since adolescence.

you can go to the airport to have a look. Almost all the books bought by young boys are about how to lead a team, how to be promoted, and how to go to black school. What I read on my mobile phone is fantasy novels.

in middle age, they suddenly want to return to the spiritual world and become Buddhists, coaching skills and all kinds of bracelets.

most men look down on women reading chicken soup books, aesthetics of life, petty bourgeoisie literature and art, and love movies. They think they are useless, but they do not know that women can maintain a girl's heart by relying on these useless things. Whether the quality of writing is good or not is a matter of personal vision, but at least women rarely give up the exploration and pursuit of the inner world and become beautiful.

A man's eyes betray his heart.

A person's figure will betray his inner body.

where time is spent is visible.

the spiritual world of many people can almost relentlessly discard sincerity, goodwill and beauty after encountering secularity and money. Save most of the space to pursue material goals one by one. The beauty of life, profound nourishment, these are too wasted time, are useless, anyway, they believe that money has everything. (regardless of men and women)

this is the real reason why it is so difficult for excellent women to find a partner. Because when a woman is outstanding, she wants spiritual nourishment, not lipstick. And these things, if men do not have their own, how to give women.

| 02 this year's men are not good. Will the next one be better?

I know most married women who place their spiritual sustenance on their children.

this sustenance is no longer the meticulous care of clothing, food, shelter and transportation by mothers in the past, but the quality of spiritual communication between them and their children, which far exceeds that between them and their husbands.

looking at where the father is going, it is not difficult to see that many children, especially sons, have both longing and contempt for their father. For example, Kang Kang, the son of Hu Jun, and Shi, the son of Guo Tao, have strong feelings of resistance in the face of their strict father.

the reason is not difficult to understand, because in life, they have too few opportunities to get along with their father. Once together, there is no way for the father to lower his posture and communicate with his children, mostly for teaching and lessons. Moreover, the father's usual attitude towards his mother also makes the child's heart cool.

where is the father of the latest issue? although Sha Yi is not the kind of traditional strict father, we can see how much the child dislikes his father.

but once such boys are with girls, they become gentle, warm, max-strong little men who express themselves freely, have great leadership, and are especially willing to protect their younger brothers and sisters who are weaker than themselves.

Yes, every mother wants to make her son an "ideal boyfriend".

my best friend said that no matter how hard she worked outside, she came home and told her son to hug her, and the little body rushed over and said, "Mom, I will protect you." When I heard this, tears streamed down my face.

I totally empathize with this. Can not have thoughtful, funny, gentle, children all replace the father to the mother.

so, I always say that the best father, the best parent-child education he can give, is to love his mother.

every mother with a son no longer wants her child to become that kind of stiff, cold, tacky straight male cancer.

every mother with a daughter no longer wants her child to be a stubborn, tough-mouthed, strong girl without love.

if we say, what is the best thing about the ills of this era?

that is to let women who have suffered enough to think deeply, keep learning, keep growing, and think about how to change the fate of the next generation, so that they can be more happy.

it is said that it takes three generations to change genes. So, our children, children's children, they should live in a more sensitiveIn the age of sex, richer and more mellow.

| 03 when a man who will give meets a woman who can express love

Don't get me wrong, I have no discrimination against men and no prejudice. At the same time, both men and women are facing the continuous pain brought by the rigid educational ideas of the previous generation.

this pain is mainly reflected in that men who do not know how to give love meet women who do not know how to express love.

so even if the conditions are the same, when two people sit together, they don't know how to open each other's heart or how to take off their usual masks.

one is dull, the other is tough.

one is dull, the other is sharp.

one will not take the initiative, the other will not ask.

meeting together and forming a family are all misunderstandings and estrangement.

so, why are single girls so infatuated with the plots and pictures in "where is Dad going?" because it is missing, because it is too difficult for us to see or get such a beautiful interaction among our peers.

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cry freely, laugh freely, express freely, hug freely, hold hands freely, fall in love as if they had never been hurt at all.

so, I firmly disagree. Girls are more tacky and worship money than before.

I have read an article saying that when women are on a blind date, most men feel the state of being investigated [asked for], as if men deserve to provide them with material resources.

to this end, I would like to ask: if you put aside your house, savings and wealth, can men give girls sense of security, love and spiritual nourishment?

it is an immutable truth that if you don't have a lot of love, you need a lot of money.

and now the second best thing is that many girls don't even want money, just think-- I'm responsible for making money to support my family, and you can be as beautiful as flowers.

when I write this article, I have no intention of attacking men.

I just want to say that when men find girls picky, manipulative, difficult and worship money, is there a more advanced and profound way to love girls than when they were 18 years old? I'm afraid it's not as good as the five-year-old boy in where is Dad going?

of course, I think I am always optimistic about human evolution. We do not have the ability and luck to get the life experience, I hope our children can get it.

so girls, don't be too pessimistic, a lot of fresh meat is on its way.