The family style is good, no matter how poor it is, the family can get rich.

attaching importance to family education is a fine tradition through the ages.

it is said that family motto works appeared in China during the pre-Qin period, and such works emerged one after another in later generations.

Yan's Family motto is one of the outstanding ones.

Chen Zhensun, a scholar in the Song Dynasty, once said, "Family motto in ancient and modern times, take this as the ancestor."

it is the treasure of the Yan family motto that makes the Yan family have a large number of talents and enjoy all the glory.

in the Northern and Southern dynasties, Yan Zhitui was famous all over the world;

in the early Tang Dynasty, Yan Shigu annotated the classics, which won the trust of the emperors;

in the Middle Tang Dynasty, the Yan family even produced the calligraphy master Yan Zhenqing and the loyal minister Yan Xianqing.

as Yuan Zhi, a scholar in the Ming Dynasty, said: "Yan Zhitui in the six dynasties was the most correct family law, and the legend is the farthest."

from this point of view, the secret of the prosperity of the Yan family for hundreds of years lies in their pure family style.

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01

the wind of reflection psychologist Jung once said: "those who look out are dreaming, and those who look inward are awake."

each of us has to make countless choices in our lives, and every choice is a crucial step in our lives.

once you make the wrong choice, you will deviate from the course and go astray.

at this time, if we do not know how to "reflect", we will go farther and farther on the wrong channel.

when Yan Zhi was young, the parents in the family were very strict.

his every move is carried out under the supervision and correction of his parents, which bothers him very much.

after his parents died, Yan Zhi lost control and began to act willfully and willfully.

at this time, he was not aware of his depravity, but indulged in the pleasure of indulgence.

until he was eighteen or nineteen years old, when he was looked down upon and disdained by others, he woke up to repentance and really understood his parents' pains.

he often regrets and sighs: "Night consciousness is not, today regrets yesterday's loss, self-pity is hopeless."

mistakes that have been made have not been corrected in time, and possible mistakes have not been prevented in advance. This is simply hopeless!

the family is in the middle of life, suffering from disdain, rough life and cruel facts tell Yan Zhitui: if you want to strengthen yourself, you must first examine yourself.

so he began to reflect on himself three times a day, constantly honing his character and correcting his mistakes, and finally became a world-famous scholar, laying a solid foundation for the rise of the Yan family.

in the Yuanjue Sutra, there is such a dialogue:

once, Manjushri Bodhisattva asked the Buddha, how can we find who we really are?

Buddha told Wenshu Bodhisattva: "Manjushri, you should know that all things such as Tathagata, from the origin, are based on the sense of wisdom."

the so-called "sense of wisdom" means knowing self-reflection and being good at constantly knowing your true self through self-reflection.

A person's life is a process of self-reflection.

only by constantly reflecting on yourself can you recognize yourself. Only by recognizing yourself clearly can you have the strength to shoulder your responsibilities and realize your ambitions.

taking oneself as a mirror, self-cultivation and self-improvement, to achieve the peace and depth of the spiritual world, will eventually lead us to perfection.

02

in contemporary society, "exquisite" seems to have become the quality of life that everyone yearns for. But behind the delicacy, there is often vanity and desire.

in fact, material affluence is not the standard of living standard.

Zhuge Liang has a saying: "quiet to cultivate self-cultivation, frugality to cultivate morality."

A good and full life is often simple and plain.

during the Northern and Southern dynasties when Yan Zhitui lived, the society was in turmoil, and people also took luxury as the fashion.

in the south at that time, even poor families paid great attention to the decoration of their appearance when they went out.

the carriages and clothes people use when they go out must be gorgeous, but they have to suffer from hunger and cold when they get home.

in Hebei, most of people's communication activities are presided over by women.

while these women compete with each other, wearing silk and satin and jewelry, it costs a lot of money to have a meal.

for a while, the wind of luxury swept the north and south of the country.

as Zeng Guofan said: no matter everyone is a small family, scholar, peasant, industrial and commercial, industrious and frugal, not depressed, extravagant and tired, not invincible.

people in the Northern and Southern dynasties were accustomed to extravagant comparisons and spent most of their money on it. When they encountered natural disasters, they could only end up with a broken family.

things in the world are so wonderful, some people do not have luxury capital, but want to go to luxury; some people have luxury strength, but choose frugality.

Zeng Guofan, a famous minister in the late Qing Dynasty, was ranked as prime minister, but he was famous for his frugality.

Zeng Guofan visited Yangzhou once during his tenure as governor of Liangjiang and Liangjiang.

when the salt merchants in Yangzhou heard that he was coming, they immediately spent a lot of money and held a big banquet to entertain him.

because Zeng Guofan was looking for salt merchants to prepare military pay, Zeng Guofan was embarrassed to refuse other people's kindness.

so he picked up his chopsticks and moved several times on one of the dishes in front of him, but the other dishes didn't even move.

afterwards, when the attendants asked the reason, Zeng Guofan said with emotion: "I can't bear to eat, and I can't bear to see it."

it turns out that although Zeng Guofan was a feudal official, his daily life was extremely simple, eating only one dish and one meal per meal. In any case, he could not bear to eat such a big feast like this.

Zeng Guofan is not only frugal and simple, but also teaches his family to be thrifty and run the family.

he stipulated that all women in the family should spin cloth, even ifIs his wife Yipingming's wife is no exception.

the Zeng Guofan family was able to survive in that surging era, and this style of frugality undoubtedly contributed to it.

through the previous sages and families, diligence and thrift broke the cause of extravagance.

thrift leads to thrift, while extravagance leads to defeat.

remember that what can achieve success and enrich the spirit is not external luxury and enjoyment, but internal frugality and simplicity.

people who really understand frugality will never stay in vain external splendor, what they often pursue is inner simplicity and indifference.

03

the wind of being studious Ouyang Xiu in the Northern Song Dynasty said: "to establish a body is to establish a school first, and to establish a school is based on reading."

many studies have confirmed that the reading level and frequency of parents in a family will greatly affect the next generation's interest in reading.

the deceased are like this, day and night, fame and wealth are instantly in vain.

in this changing world, the only constant is the power of knowledge.

"Yan's Family motto" once described the learning situation of people at that time:

during the Southern and Northern dynasties and Liang Dynasty, most of the aristocratic children did not like reading.

at that time, the children of the aristocracy advocated the legacy of the Wei and Jin dynasties, and they spent all day in vanilla lavender, flour, high chariots and horses.

between lines, they look like immortals from afar, but when it comes to writing articles and using knowledge, they find someone else to write them.

these ignorant people will eventually become real fools.

once the family lost power, they were desperate, suffered a lot in the chaos, and even died an unnatural death.

at this time, ordinary people who are bent on learning can maintain food and clothing by teaching. Compared with those ignorant nobles, I do not know how much better.

as the saying goes: it is better to accumulate tens of millions of money than to study.

Food will rot, preferences will change, paper will turn yellow, wealth will depreciate, and knowledge will never be out of date.

it will only grow up with generations of people.

A good family style is not passed on by gold and silver, but by the ability to be independent through studious learning.

when Confucius was young, his family was poor and he was often looked down upon by some aristocratic children, but he always maintained a studious heart.

when he entered the Taimiao to assist in etiquette when he was a teenager, he showed a modest and studious attitude and had to consult the relevant personnel on almost everything.

when he was in his prime, he went around to study for fear that he might fail to learn.

during his visit to Kyoto and Luoyang, Confucius visited many famous scholars at that time, including Laozi.

Laozi taught Confucius the great truth of dealing with the world: to be proud and to learn well.

there is a saying in the Analects of Confucius: "I don't eat all day and stay up all night. It's better to think than to learn."

Confucius' tireless study not only made himself a brilliant saint through the ages, but also made the Confucius family inherit for thousands of years.

although there is no limit to the sea of learning, every step forward, there is a step of happiness.

only by keeping a studious heart can we discover more wonderful things.

inherit the studious style, quietly accumulate strength, one day, you will bloom your own brilliance.

04

the wind of stopping feet Zeng Guofan once said: "stop the world wide, greedy narrow universe."

greed is the source of human suffering and the inducement of mistakes.

A greedy heart is like a desert without boundaries. Although you eat everything crazily, it will only make yourself more dry.

therefore, to extricate ourselves from the desert of greed, we need to learn to stop.

as the saying goes, "contentment is not humiliating". To "stop being satisfied" means to stop and be satisfied, that is, to give up as soon as you see what is good, and to leave some leeway.

Yan Zhitui once put forward a theory of "being an official."

he taught the younger generation:

"as officials, only the middle grade is the best." There are fifty people in front of you and fifty behind you. As long as you are in the middle, you can avoid shame and disaster. If he is above this position, he should resign and live comfortably at home. "

Yan Zhitui adhered to this law all his life. Although he did not have a lot of officials and money, he ended well in the troubled times of "the Great Banner of the changing City."

some people say that simple, even simpler, is life.

Why is it simple? There is nothing but contentment.

in the Ming Dynasty, there was a teacher named Hu Jiushao. His family is poor. Although he teaches and works hard at the same time, he can only maintain food and clothing.

however, this kind of life is enough for him.

at dusk every day, he would go to the door to burn incense and worship to heaven to thank God for the blessings he had given him.

once, his wife laughed at him and said, "We have vegetable porridge three times a day. How can we talk about Qingfu?"

Hu Jiushao said: "I am very glad that I was born in a peaceful and prosperous age, that there was no war disaster, that I did not suffer from hunger or cold, and that the whole family lived in peace. Isn't this our clear blessing?"

Hu Jiushao's spirit of contentment undoubtedly gives him the real joy of life.

there is a saying in Cai Gentan: "those who are satisfied are in Wonderland, and those who are not satisfied are in the ordinary world."

Life is like a mountain, it is easier to go up than to go down.

therefore, it is more difficult to stop and retreat than to work hard.

the sunrise at the top of the mountain is not only an honor, but also a temptation. It can make you shine forever, and it can also make you fall into the abyss.

if we do not know how to stop, but only pursue blindly, we are likely to end up in the predicament described by Zhuangzi:

with a limited life, to pursue unlimited temptation, and finally depressed and confused all my life.

05

there is a saying in Yan's Family motto:

"living with good people, such as entering the room of Zhilan, is fragrant for a long time; with evil people, such as entering the restaurant of abalone, it stinks for a long time."

the inheritance of a good family style often goes through the care and polishing of several generations.

the family style is invisible, but it permeates the bones and blood of every offspring, becomes the link of the family, and determines the future of the descendants.

A family can get rich no matter how poor it is as long as the family style is positive.

May we put it into practice, inherit the beautiful family style, be worthy of our ancestors, and benefit future generations.