The bigger the temper, the worse the life.

01

I have an old classmate in high school who is very extroverted, but even if she has a bad temper, her unhappiness can make her so angry that she has nothing to say.

regardless of whether she is reasonable or not, this attitude inevitably gives people the impression that she is too mean, so it is always difficult for people to talk about her.

Last week, when I went back to my hometown, A Ning said to ask some of my old classmates to come out for a get-together. I hadn't seen each other for several years, so I chose a day when everyone was free to have dinner together.

that day happened to be in the rush hour for dinner on Saturday. There were so many people in the shop that the waiter accidentally stumbled while delivering water, and the water in the pot overflowed and spilled on my old classmate's clothes.

We were all surprised and hurriedly asked her if she was hot. The waiter apologized again and again and gave her a tissue to wipe.

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she pushed the waiter away angrily, wiping the water on her clothes, and her tone became very unpleasant: "I'm so bored. Even coming out for a meal can cause unpleasant things. Is the service industry so irregular now? the water doesn't pour into the cup, but pour it on the customer."

the atmosphere became a little awkward. I saw the waiter's hand pause, and then stood to one side with his head down and dared not speak.

the pot is at hand. I tried it on the back of my hand. It was warm water, and I wanted to say something to ease it, so I pulled out some paper towels and handed it to her. "it's good that she didn't burn it, she didn't mean it, and we came out to the party, so don't affect the mood."

she looked up and said, "I know, but look, she just stood by and didn't speak, and those who didn't know thought I was bullying her." Call your manager and ask how to solve the matter. "

the other party looked a little bewildered, blushed, opened his mouth several times, and finally went to call the manager.

A Ning couldn't watch it and said angrily, "We haven't seen each other for years, so we finally got together. Do you care about this?" It's not oil or wine or anything, it's just water. All you have to do is wipe it. Why embarrass a little girl? "

but she smiled treacherously at us and said proudly, "look, when the manager comes, at least you have to deliver a dish or something, even if it's not an order."

those who are speechless are the rest of us here.

the meal did get a 15% discount, but when I checked out, I saw the manager reprimanding the waitress girl, and looking at this smiling old classmate, I suddenly felt disgust and revulsion that I wanted to block her Wechat.

02

A Ning and I are not far away. After saying hello to other students, we took a taxi home together.

as soon as the car started, A Ning couldn't help complaining: "in fact, I think she just feels aggrieved, so she takes advantage of a discount." I remember when we were in high school, we forgot who said what. Anyway, she didn't like to hear it. She forced people to apologize and asked them to buy her lunch.

No wonder she is still a clerk several years after graduation. last time she complained to me that it was difficult to get a promotion. With her temper, I thought it was good not to be fired. "

I suddenly thought of a sentence that Wang Xiaobo once said: all people's pain is essentially anger at their own incompetence.

is easy to get angry, in fact, it is precisely because life is not satisfactory, so it is so easy to cause boredom and irritability.

yell and make a fuss, thinking that they have let off steam, but they do not realize that such a temper will only push more blessings away from them and make life more and more unpleasant.

take this old classmate, for example, I haven't seen her for a few years, which refreshes our impression of her at first sight, making everyone unwilling to have any deep acquaintance with her, let alone relatives or colleagues who have never seen her head down.

No one likes a partner who is grumpy and full of negative energy, no one can stand a friend who is full of care, and no leader likes subordinates who only care about things.

for a long time, people who don't know how to control their emotions will only end up being hated by their relatives, and how can life be wonderful?

it is only a matter of time before a man with a bad temper has to pay for his temper.

03

du Yuesheng said such a very classic saying:

first-class people have ability but no temper; second-class people have ability and temper; last people have no ability and temper.

the so-called "no temper" does not mean soft persimmons and obedience. On the contrary, it is precisely that they understand the importance and know how to make choices, so they are able to control their emotions and not be slaves to them.

it is very comfortable to get along with a person with a good temper, because he will not let his impulsive words hurt the people he values, let alone make irreparable mistakes because of his temper. Words and things are more convincing.

in contrast, those who have a bad temper tend to have a bad life, and living in complaints all day will only force everyone to stay away from him in the end.

when temper comes, fortune is gone. if you want to live a better life, the first step is to control your temper.

being a man and joining the WTO is a spiritual practice, from irascible to peaceful, from care to tolerance, and strive to cultivate a normal heart, so that you can always have a sense of freedom in your heart.

May we all remind ourselves that the bigger the temper, the worse the life; the warmer the temper, the deeper the blessing.

encourage each other.