Stop caring about the people you like.

1. Greetings.

the annual summary of NetEase Yun Music not long ago, when I saw the list, I found that one day I heard Gu Juji's "must kill" 161 times.

it should be really sad for a fresh and impatient person like me to cycle a single so many times in one day.

that time seemed to be a low ebb.

all day long, I feel very stressed and depressed, and I will shed tears unconsciously during the gap in a daze, but I am afraid that others will see them, so I quickly wipe them off with my hand.

and he knows all these repressed emotions, but he hasn't said a word of greeting.

he was traveling in a foreign country at that time. We had jet lag and waited for many days. We waited until very late and couldn't say, "are you feeling better?"

this is probably the reason for 161 cycles.

I thought forget it. Maybe I'm just someone he liked, so I don't want it.

then suddenly received a good night from him in the evening.

so the handsome accumulated during the day was suddenly pumped out again, thinking about waiting for another night.

answer the opening sentence of the song:

"you are free again recently." I'm on the defensive. Don't do any work. "

you finally come to greet me. Do you happen to be free?

but I finally persuaded myself to stop expecting it. How could you come and greet me so easily and casually?

after waiting for a long time to greet you, I suddenly thought it would be better if I didn't.

II. Break up.

A reader sent me a private message saying that he was lovelorn.

on the reasons for breaking up, she said: "I like him, but he says he is not good, and it will hurt to continue to be with him."

"I just think he's good, and I'm full of motivation every day with him. Am I useless? " Finally, she asked me that.

I don't know if she gets hurt when we continue to be together. It's just that she said a lot of things after the breakup, and she was very sad and desperate.

I think the reason for breaking up is low and bad-

you say you are not good, but your first thought is to leave me, not how to get better.

it's always harder to break up than to be together. Because to break up first means to betray your feelings first.

so, in order not to bear any charges, by belittling yourself, so for the sake of the other party, you can't say "I don't like you anymore".

think you are very good, obviously very happy, but you must say that this is all a temporary illusion, I have nothing to say, I can not help but depend on you.

as for the breakup, you said you were afraid I would get hurt in the future, don't worry about it.

I'm just the person you once loved, so why do you have to say that you care about my future before you leave?

III, former degree.

many people say they like it, and people who have been together cannot be friends.

I didn't believe it before.

A year after breaking up with someone before, he received his birthday greetings. After a few text messages, he asked, "are we still friends?" I'll answer, of course.

on the eve of the college entrance examination, I unexpectedly received a lot of encouragement from him. During the period of volunteering, there was a great difference of opinion with his family, which was very unpleasant, and got a lot of comfort and advice from him.

such a relationship once made me think that it is not impossible to still care about each other after breaking up.

but when I saw him showing his love in the moments one night, I still felt a thump in my heart. It was neither unfinished love nor jealousy, but as a special existence, when you stared at the other person's current "well, it's her" in the photo, I was inexplicably twisted.

then he broke up with his girlfriend and asked what to do.

it was the beginning of school at that time, and I was very busy, but after receiving Wechat, as a friend, I put down my business and listened to him tell stories about her.

listen to the previous talk about the current situation, some of the details still sound uncomfortable, but because of the identity of friends, we have to continue to listen.

after chatting for a long time that night, the dormitory suddenly stopped the water. I went somewhere else to take a quick bath and came back to chat with him until the wee hours of the morning. I guessed the cause of the woman's mood and asked him to try again.

later, I heard that his girlfriend lost her temper and deleted all the girls on his mobile phone, including me.

this sudden treatment makes people feel that all the concern at that time was fed to the dog, so the backhand was blocked.

but it is also strange that it was not until I was completely disconnected that I suddenly felt that this person was the former. I felt that what happened to him in the future was none of my business and was not worthy of my concern.

it turns out that the moment when we stop caring about each other is the time when a relationship ends.

IV. Must kill.

people's biggest misunderstanding of people who have liked, or still like themselves, is that they think they still need their greetings, so they export superfluous concern.

"must kill," tells such a story:

the man reluctantly accepted the result of the breakup and tried to get back on track, but the girl always said, "Why don't you look for me?" He also praised the man as "very progressive".

in the face of these concerns and compliments, he almost begged and said:

"you never believed that I was motivated before, so leave me alone."

"I underestimated you. No matter how stubborn I am, I can't compete with you."

he even said, "if you care about me, you will kill me again."

she didn't know that just a few words would be enough to destroy the normal life that the man had painstakingly maintained.

have heard many similar stories intentionally or unintentionally, they throw out superfluous care, like a must-kill trick, constantly pulling back those who have reluctantly given up the past.

in the comments on this song, someone said, "there is no necessary skill, but it depends on me liking you."

blindly care about the people you like, but also because the other person still likes you.

Don't do such bullying again, intentionally or unintentionally.

finally.

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