One word is enough to change a person.

in life, everyone can talk, but not everyone can "talk".

it is easy to speak, but difficult to speak.

as the saying goes, if you say it, you spill water.

language is a double-edged sword, so be careful what you say. If you open your mouth, it is easy to hurt others and yourself.

01

less blame, more comfort

as the ancients said, "kind words are warmer than cloth, hurtful words are deeper than spears."

saying nice things to others gives people a feeling that it is warmer than putting on cloth;

but if bad words hurt people, it can be more serious than the sting of a long spear.

indeed, unmeasured accusations can undermine a person's self-confidence, while sincere encouragement and comfort can encourage people to make progress.

the great writer Sugett, his grades were not good when he was a child. Because he was suffering from polio, he could not move his right foot, which made him feel very inferior.

fortunately, at that time, a teacher knew that Sugett was very interested in reading, although he didn't like his homework.

instead of accusing him of poor academic performance, the teacher often gives him comfort and encouragement.

from then on, Sugett no longer felt that he was a stupid child, began to make a turning point in his life, and finally became a famous writer.

later, Sugett specially went back to his primary school, found the child with the worst grades at that time, and comforted him earnestly and sincerely:

"you are a good boy, and I used to be the same as you. Don't lose heart."

then he gave him a gold coin from his pocket to encourage him not to give up on himself.

language can be a warm winter sun or a sharp sword.

A hurtful word can destroy a person, but a comforting word may save a person.

therefore, in life, whether in front of relatives or strangers, you should talk well.

less blame and more comfort can not only shorten the distance between people, but may even change a person's fate.

A lot of times, one word is enough to change a person.

02

less belittling and more praising

the famous psychologist Marshall Luxembourg once said:

"maybe we don't think that our way of talking is violent, but language does often cause pain for ourselves and others."

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I think so.

We talk every day, but if we don't know how to speak properly, we may inadvertently say hurtful things without knowing it.

recently, reader Xiaoli left a message backstage saying that she had just broken up with an old friend.

Xiaoli is a little fat now because she needed oral hormones for her illness.

once, Xiaoli took a fancy to a dress on the Internet and liked it very much, so she happily sent it to her friend to ask her if it was good-looking. Who expected the friend replied:

"I mean you, ah, do not look at your own figure, this dress is only suitable for that kind of tall and thin girls, you just wear it, don't be embarrassed."

Xiaoli's mood suddenly hit rock bottom. When her friend saw that she had not answered, she added disapprovingly:

"I, you know, speak bluntly, joking, don't worry."

Xiaoli answered nothing and cut off contact with this friend directly.

there is a saying in Di Zi Gui: "if a man is short, do not reveal it."

A lot of times, an inadvertent joke, which seems to be insignificant, can actually disappoint and hurt people.

William Bernard said: "like hammering a nail in a fence, the injury will leave a permanent mark."

Yes, hurting a person is actually like a nail in a fence. Even if the nail is pulled out, the mark will always be there.

you never know how much harm a careless remark will do to others.

be a man, please be merciful, and don't say things that belittle others at will.

03

less complaining, more considerate

there are always some such people who like to complain about God's injustice when they encounter unhappy things.

No one knows that complaining words are like viruses.

if you don't exercise restraint, you will fall into self-pity all day long.

as the old saying goes: if you worry, the world is narrow, and resentment is everywhere.

when dealing with people, you should be more considerate and complain less.

words of complaint are like sharp blades that hurt others as well as themselves;

words of understanding are like summer breezes that make people feel like a spring breeze.

there is a young man who has just arrived in a company and his team has a heavy workload, and his colleagues also leave some chores to him to do, resulting in him often having to work overtime.

after work every day, he always calls his friends to complain about his work.

after his friend learned about him, he comforted him and said:

"after all, you haven't been in the company for a long time, and your colleagues probably want to exercise your ability by giving you all the work.

Don't always complain, just do a good job, make some achievements, and let them know what you can do. "

after hearing this, young people suddenly realize that they no longer complain, so they devote themselves to their work more attentively.

you know, complaining is useless except to make yourself more upset.

language is emotional, and once complaining becomes a habit, it will make you fall deeper and deeper and always feel that everything is not going well.

like the sentence: "if life throws you a lemon, you can squeeze it."Make it into juice, then add some sugar. "

do not blame heaven, not especially people, always think of others, in order to find more beauty in life.

04

in life, the most direct way to deal with people is to speak.

language is powerful.

sometimes, a soothing word from you may be a light for a person trapped in the dark to illuminate his progress.

Cai Kangyong once said: talking is something we can make progress with a little attention.

May you and I both be good talkers for the rest of our lives, with good thoughts and lotus blossoms in our mouth.