No blame in case of trouble is the best feng shui for a family

there is a Western proverb:

"Don't cry over spilled milk."

it is about a student who complains and blames himself all day long because of his mistakes, resulting in poor grades.

in order to relieve the students' melancholy, the teacher spilled the milk on the table and angrily rebuked:

Don't cry for the spilled milk, because the milk is gone.

the same is true in life, things have happened, no matter how much blame, can not be reversed, do not blame too much for the mistakes already made, it is better to calm down and think of a solution, looking for the next turning point.

01

No blame, husband and wife are closer

often people ask: what is the way of husband and wife?

in fact, there is no correct reason for husband and wife to get along with each other. The secret of a long marriage is that it is not easy to blame when something goes wrong.

there is such an old couple in the village who live in poverty, so they decide to take the only valuable horse in the family to the market for something good.

the old woman said to the Don:

"Today is a market day in town. Ride it to the city, sell this horse for some money, or exchange for something good. You can't go wrong with what you do. Go to the market quickly."

the Don went on his way with the old woman's orders. He first traded a horse for a cow, then a cow for a sheep, a goose for a goose, a goose for a chicken, and finally a bag of rotten apples with the chicken.

when he came home contentedly with a bag of rotten apples, he met two travelers. He triumphantly told the traveler about his experience. The traveler laughed and said, "when you go home, you will be scolded by the old lady!"

the Don said, "No, I will get a compliment from her and a kiss."

so the two travelers bet the old man a bag of silver. To the surprise of the two travelers, after listening to the old man's experience, the old woman said happily:

"I have to give you a kiss, you know?"

originally, after you left today, I was thinking about making you something delicious, so I thought the best thing would be eggs and parsley. I have eggs, but I don't have any parsley, so I'm going to borrow it from my neighbor Lao Zhang.

but Lao Zhang's wife is a stingy woman. I asked her to lend me some, but she said, 'nothing grows in my garden, not even a rotten apple.'

but now, you see, I can lend her a bag of rotten apples, which is really funny. "

the last two travelers gave the old man a bag of silver as promised.

the old man in the story is not a smart man, but he often makes mistakes, but the old woman never blames him and always believes him unconditionally.

many failed marriages are often attributed to small details of life, because a reproach and a complaint will rift the relationship and take root in the bottom of your heart.

A good relationship between husband and wife should be less blame and more consideration for others, so that life will be full of surprises.

the so-called Tian Chang Di Jiu (Eternal Dumpling), growing old together, is just an understanding, a magnanimous, one does not complain, one does not blame.

02

No blame, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are more harmonious

some people say that happy families are similar, and unhappy families are unhappy in their own way, but in fact, there are ways to be happy, and there are reasons for misfortune.

most unfortunate families must not escape the accusation of gossip and be picky anytime and anywhere.

but the good times are not long. In only a year, the couple, whom everyone envies, have divorced.

at first I wondered, how could two people be separated if they didn't have a good relationship?

when asked why, it turns out that the relationship between the couple is good, but after they have been married, they have been living with their parents-in-law for a long time, and there have been various contradictions.

before marriage, Mu Mu feels that her husband is good to him and his job is stable, and his life will go smoothly in the future.

I didn't expect that I could not escape my mother-in-law after all.

Mu's mother-in-law has a broken mouth and always says in front of people:

"I can't work; I sleep until noon every day when I'm not at work; when I finish my meal, I throw away the dishes and chopsticks, and I don't know how to clean up …..."

usually under great pressure at work, I still have to hear some gossip when I get home. I feel the chicken feathers of life before I have finished experiencing the good life.

I originally wanted to ease the relationship with my mother-in-law. I chose a dress for my mother-in-law as a gift on Mother's Day, but my mother-in-law said to her face: "Oh, how come you have such a bad taste? this color doesn't suit me at first sight."

the more accusations there are, the more conflicts there will be in the family, and the marriage of two people will eventually be defeated by the life of the family.

some time ago, Douyin's "most beautiful mother-in-law" became popular, with netizens commenting on what kind of fairy mother-in-law this is!

the most beautiful mother-in-law is not how beautiful she looks, but the way she gets along with her daughter-in-law.

daughter-in-law

"Mom, it pisses me off. People call me ugly."

mother-in-law:

"Why didn't I see you ugly? No matter how ugly you are, you are my treasure.

Mom takes you shopping in the afternoon. You are the prettiest girl in the street. "

with that, they roared with laughter.

it can be seen from the many videos of the blogger that the mother-in-law never refutes or criticizes her daughter-in-law.

in daily life, she will respect the opinions of her daughter-in-law and understand the living conditions of young people. Even if she loves and cares for her children again, she will keep a sense of moderation and a proper sense of distance.

Life is too trivial, but people's energy is limited, no one is perfect, can make you satisfied except yourself, no one else, so be more tolerant, more understanding.

maintaining the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a difficult problem for many people, and respecting each other is the best choice.

03

No blame, parents are healthier

there is an old Chinese saying: "filial piety comes first."

now many young people have such a phenomenon. When they are away from home, they miss their parents very much and return home only a few days after the holiday. They are just impatient and can't wait to go to work and start school immediately.

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investigate the reasons, but they all say that parents are nagging and annoying every day; they don't have a common topic and don't want to talk.

I would rather sit at home and play with my phone than try to have a heart-to-heart talk with my parents.

occasionally my parents come and ask:

how to do this thing? Why can't this phone play video?

I always get all kinds of impatient answers:

how come you don't know anything? How many times have I told you? Why don't you touch it? Are you tired of.

more and more accusations and complaints make them look at your face carefully for fear of causing you trouble and making you unhappy.

in fact, when you blame and complain about your parents, have you ever thought about understanding and understanding your parents?

Xu Zheng's character Xu Yiwan in the movie "embarrassing Mom" blames each other loudly because he disagrees with his mother:

"Don't ever send me this 60-second Wechat square again. Haven't you noticed after all these years? I am not the son you think I am! "

they have seen you young and frivolous, witnessed your recalcitrance, and grew up with you.

when you grow up, you should take good care of them.

you might as well:

be more patient with them;

blame them less;

understand them more;

be less bored with them.

the world is always looking for a place of fengshui to bless the health of the family, the harmony of husband and wife, and the full house of children and grandchildren.