Making yourself comfortable is a person's top EQ.

some people say that people with high EQ will care about everyone's feelings.

so many people try to be comfortable with others in order to fit in with the group.

in the end, I remember the preferences of others, but forget only myself.

Yi Shu said in "Beautiful New World"

"Life is only a few decades, the most important thing is to satisfy yourself, not to please others."

it is not noble to please others. The most important thing in life is to make yourself comfortable first.

01

only by making yourself comfortable

can you make others comfortable

there is a question and answer on Weibo:

Why do so many people seem to have so many friends but are not happy at all?

one of the netizens' answer was sad. He said:

"I am the kind of person who has a lot of friends but is not happy at all."

every time I go out with my friends, I always remember what they like to eat, what they like, never say what they like, and no one ever asks me what I like.

so every time I go out, I order a meal and order a bunch of people's favorite foods.

used to watch people eat what they like, and said to me:

"only you remember, only when you care about me, I feel very fulfilling."

but now, suddenly, I feel comfortable with others while neglecting myself, which is a kind of disappointment to myself.

making others comfortable is to make a relationship last longer, and one day you will find that making yourself comfortable is the premise of a strong relationship.

Ma Jiahui shared such a thing in the round table.

he said that after marriage, his wife decided to become a full-time wife. At that time, he was very opposed, for fear that his wife would become a full-time wife and bury herself in the housework.

but the wife was adamant, saying that she liked the life of a stay-at-home wife, and finally she had no choice but to agree.

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surprisingly, his wife has a rich life every day. She not only recommends good books and movies to herself, but also gives him advice at work.

so he finally sighed:

I support my wife financially, and my wife nourishes me with spirit.

Ma Jiahui's wife chooses to make herself comfortable first, but also because she makes herself comfortable and in a good mood, so that everyone around her can be happy.

A good relationship is to complete yourself first, and then distribute your inner joy and satisfaction to others.

only when you are really happy can you bring high-quality love and happiness to people.

02

since I became a "shrew"

my life has been much cleaner

We often say: the more a person can control his emotions, the more he will endure, the more successful he will be in the future.

however, in reality, those who will endure and never lose their temper are treated as soft persimmons and bullied wantonly.

sometimes we think it's patience, but in fact it's cowardice in the eyes of others.

instead of this, you might as well learn to be a shrew.

I have a colleague who agrees with anyone who asks her for help in order to get along well with everyone at work.

because of this, she fits in with everyone and seems to have a "good" relationship with everyone.

once, when she was checking the data for others, the other person was scolded by the leader for her carelessness, and then she was mercilessly pushed out.

the leader scolded them both, and when they came out, the colleague who was helped said

"are you deliberately hurting me? even such simple data can be wrong?"

she complained sadly to her friends:

Why were they so kind to me when something happened?

she was obviously kind enough to help them, but in the end it was all my fault.

A friend says that you are just so talkative that the next time you meet such a person, simply refuse to avoid causing yourself a lot of trouble.

since this time, someone came to her for help, and she gradually learned to refuse.

after knowing how to draw a clear line with the people around her, she found that people around her gradually began to respect herself.

sometimes the world is so bully.

the more you indulge others, the more they will push their nose and face.

on the contrary, if you raise your bottom line, others will not dare to make a mistake.

it's nice to be a shrew and know how to fight for yourself before others begin to respect you.

those who always want to trouble you will disappear from your world, and your world will become much cleaner.