Love demotion | "I can't afford to break up at my age, if you just want to play, forget it."

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recently, I always see people talking about "love demotion". What is love degradation? the online explanation is: authoritative data show that 1/3 of urban young men and women are more and more afraid to confirm their relationship in their relationship and make commitments. instead, "do not take the initiative, do not refuse, not responsible" finally decided to terminate the relationship because the other half could not bear it.

No initiative, no refusal, no responsibility.

what a familiar routine, these words used to describe scum men and women have become a common phenomenon now. Are we all becoming incompetent in love, or are we too lazy to love?

when Qing Qing first fell in love, she belonged to a hot rectum, desperate for love. If others give her a little bit of kindness, she can be moved for a long time. Friends said that she was so easy to coax and would suffer losses in love, but she felt that since she loved someone, she would devote herself to it.

maybe I feel more serious in my relationship and have higher expectations of each other. So later, when the boy broke up, Qingqing could not understand. She told us, "she has done everything she can and given everything she can give. Why did he leave me?"

after being lovelorn, Qing Qing also met new friends, but she could not accept all the orders as she did in her previous love. It was as if something had been locked in her heart, which made her communicate with others cautiously. She cast a wall outside her world and didn't want to let anyone in.

in her later relationship, she automatically downgraded her relationship: no moments, no promises, no direct answers. I asked her, "are you and XXX together?" She thought for a moment and said, "I think so."

it's not just Qingqing, more and more people are beginning to get confused about their relationships. I chat with this person every day, but I can turn around and say hello to other people. People ask, "do you have a date?" Will only reply, "do you want to introduce me to one?"

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I just read several articles about the demotion of love, which is very sad. From several stories of being single, I can almost feel the powerlessness and confusion that cannot be made public by loved ones or admitted loved ones. it is like trying hard to do a good job and being told it is futile.

but myself, have I gradually become timid in my relationship, afraid to admit it, and afraid to break up soon after it is made public, for fear of talking about the embarrassment of my ex when others chat?

know a person, met, moved, ambiguous, do everything like a lover, but hesitated at the moment of asking: are we in love?

what does it matter if the public is not public? whether or not he admits it has anything to do with it? at least he is happy for now, at least he will not be embarrassed to break up after he is not made public, at least he will not lose face when he is rejected, he hasn't lost, he hasn't fallen in love, and he hasn't given up everything yet.

this is the sad spiritual victory of modern people in love.

I'm not in love with him, I'm still talking about someone else; what happened to his date with other girls, I also have other little brothers to look for; it's not that he doesn't love me if he's not public, and I'm not public either. Anyway, I didn't lose in this relationship, as long as I (pretended) didn't care, I didn't lose.

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behind the degradation of love, it's not that we don't want to love, it's that we put our hearts away carefully after so many ups and downs. We are all mortal, falling in love will hurt, we are all afraid of pain, so we can only pretend not to love so much.

it's funny, it's funny. But when one comes and goes, it becomes a closed loop, because there is no sense of security, so he protects himself strictly, so that the other party does not have a sense of security, and he also protects himself. Finally, everyone, covered with thorns, approached the loved one with restraint and fear, but when the other person turned his head to respond, he fastened the lock on his heart to death.

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behind the demotion of love, maybe I haven't met the person who can make me open everything. But it's not easy to meet someone who can open everything to love, and of course, maybe I want to protect myself too much.

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