I'm sorry, you disappeared from my moments.

writer Su Cen said that

I think so deeply.

when we were young, we were all keen on socializing. How many fields of people you know, and whether there are thousands of friends on Wechat.

later, we no longer care about the number of interpersonal circles, and gradually learn to clean up and give up.

because not everyone is fit to stay in our moments.

01

people who are always consuming you, just block

A high school classmate with few contacts pulled me into a shopping group.

Elevate some elegance to your wardrobe in our captivating off the shoulder cocktail dresses . Buy our tons of options in every style now.

in order to prevent me from quitting the group, the other party sincerely sent a long voice: because of the company's salary reduction, my classmates began to work as a sideline and wanted to earn some money to subsidize their families.

thinking that it was not easy during the epidemic, I occasionally bought some daily necessities in the group to take care of her business.

not long after being a good person, I was ruthless and indifferent.

that classmate always recommends me to buy skin care products, massage machines, and even all kinds of electrical appliances.

every time I ask, it's the same reason:

"help me, I have to rush my performance, I'm so close."

I went through our chat notes, and every time she came to me, she either asked me to spell out the order or asked me to buy something from her, and never asked me if I needed it.

if such a friendship is true, I don't believe it myself.

another friend of mine, Xiao Su, works as a salesman in an insurance company, but she never takes the initiative to let her relatives and friends buy insurance there.

once asked her:

Xiao Su said that friends with good feelings, if necessary, they will think of me first. But if I ask you to buy things you don't need under the banner of friendship, isn't that emotional kidnapping?

I don't want to push my friends away because of my temporary achievements.

you see, the people who often ask you to fulfill them on the premise of self-sacrifice are often people who are not so friendly and only think about themselves.

to deal with such a person, you should learn to refuse bravely and don't let yourself be a good old man who doesn't know how to tell the truth from the false.

because the person who is worth paying for must be the one who understands each other, not the one who consumes you.

02

there is a relationship called "chat only"

since last year, I have the habit of blocking some of my friends.

the cause comes from a little thing. When she had a video call with her best friend, she jokingly complained:

it seems that you haven't liked my moments for a long time.

I just realized that I seldom see her movements.

I don't know if you have ever felt that

you spend less time on moments, but the content and quantity are exploding, so you often miss important people's developments.

it was also at that time that I began to think, since when did browsing moments become less interesting?

probably started when there was less and less interesting content when it was overwhelmed by all kinds of advertisements and screen brushing.

more and more people appear in the moments and add friends because of a little intersection. They post content that has nothing to do with you and have no interest. In fact, you just feel strange when you see his name.

so that night, I sorted out my moments.

people who often advertise, those who have only a little overlap, those who always complain and vent negative energy are all blocked.

moments is obviously a place to share life, and no one likes to turn their moments into advertising circles, work circles and tree holes.

if the relationship is not so good, there is no need to maintain a like acquaintance.

but for those who have different values, or even negative energy, we can choose to avoid it.

people's time and energy are limited, and they don't have the strength to maintain a relationship with everyone.

after rejecting useless socializing, you will find that your life is much easier.

those who have been filtered are more worthy of your attention.

truly meaningful socializing is to focus most of your energy on the most important relationships.

03

choose cognitive benefits rather than emotional satisfaction

Luo Zhenyu, founder of Luo Zhi thinking, once said that a big reason for him to become the king of paying for knowledge now comes from making friends.

is it an extensive expansion of interpersonal circle and making all kinds of friends?

No.

Luo Zhenyu has a standard for making friends, and that is to make friends with people he admires.

when he finds a great guy, he will try his best to invite people to his home for a chat.

they share each other's thoughts that they find most valuable, rather than talking about things that have nothing to do with them and talking about emotions.

if he insists on doing so, he can not only grow rapidly, but also help those in need.

when you are with strong people, you will also be unconsciously affected.

when a person makes himself more and more valuable, success is a natural thing.

not long ago, a high achiever dormitory majoring in journalism at Hebei University logged on Weibo.

of the six little girls in a dormitory, three were sent to graduate school and three were admitted to graduate school.

this high achiever dormitory has always had a special habit. Every time in class, they will take the initiative to sit in the front row.

and the most common conversation among several people every day is "see you at the top". They work hard together and encourage each other.

getting used to this thing can be contagious.

if you alwaysSocialize with people who like to complain, and in order to be emotionally satisfied, you have to accept their way of life, their way of thinking, and then become a member of the team.

get used to complaining about the environment, complaining about right and wrong, without changing yourself, you will gradually lose the ability to reflect and give up the opportunity to become a better yourself.

but if your friend is someone who makes you want to move forward when you see him, and who has expectations for life every day, it's hard for you to become lazy and dark.

A person's circle of friends can often determine a person's character, self-cultivation and even life.

04

Jobs said:

Don't waste your time in other people's lives. Your time is limited.

Don't live in the results of other people's thinking and be bound by rules.

Don't let the noise from other people's opinions drown out your inner cries.

block the moments if you don't want to see them.

if you don't want to contact, clean it up in time.

I hope that on the train of life, you can both add and subtract.

I hope you know how to choose and choose your circle of friends instead of letting bad people influence you.

starting today, learn to free up more time and space for yourself and those who deserve it.

if you agree, remember to click "watching" at the end of the article.

tell me that you don't have to invite too many people into your life for the rest of your life.