Everything suffers, but you can only make it by yourself.

01

the world of adults

is the afterlife

these two days, I was surprised to see a piece of news.

Fan Yunruo, the first professional go player in Shanghai and the winning hero of the Chinese team in the 2017 Nongxin Cup, died when he accidentally fell from a building at home at the age of 24.

it is said that Fan Yunruo, who has been plagued by depression all the year round, suddenly worsened during the epidemic this year, lasted for half a year, and finally had an accident.

as a good friend, Ke Jie immediately posted on Weibo to express her shock and sorrow.

Fan Yunruo and Ke Jie, who are one year apart, are both known as young geniuses and share the banner of Chinese go.

unfortunately, Fan Yunruo is not as lucky as Ke Jie. Not only did he not become a national idol, but he died young at such a young age.

what a nice teenager, ah, so gone, he did not have time to see the waves of life, to achieve the ideal in his heart, so quietly disappeared in the night.

and how can his parents and relatives accept such a cruel truth?

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some people say that the world of adults is the afterlife.

usually he is a lively and cheerful person in front of his family and colleagues. In fact, he may have an unknown wound in his heart.

writer Liu Liangcheng said:

Life has never bypassed anyone. No matter how excellent you are and how beautiful you are in the eyes of others, you still have to bear the pressure and suffering from life.

in fact, the furthest distance between people is: I thought I was familiar with the person in front of me, but in fact I had no understanding of his inner suffering and suffering.

how many people are beautiful on the surface, but in fact, their hearts are black and blue, and how many people have been deeply disappointed in the world, but want to smile in front of people until the moment of collapse.

02

who is alive

is not a purgatory

CCTV host Zhu Xun once talked about his early experience.

at the age of 17, she took all her family savings to study in Japan.

after paying her tuition, she had no money to live and chose to work-study.

the first job is cleaning toilets on the 1st to 18th floors, and the second job is washing dishes in a restaurant. At that time, she was as humble as a weed.

in the first year of studying abroad, she slept no more than four hours a day. She suffered from hemangioma because of overdraft.

before the surgical wound healed, she had to continue to work. As a result, the wound cracked and gauze, blood and pus stuck together.

Zhu Xun said that she cried secretly in the night countless times and felt that she had fallen into boundless darkness.

behind the original brilliance, there is also a broken soul.

he burst into tears, crying and shouting: "I don't want to take the exam."

on the last bus at 10:00 at night, a white-collar worker celebrated his birthday alone, eating cake and wiping away tears.

A delivery boy delivers food during a rainstorm. As a result, his electric car is stolen, leaving only a delivery box.

the takeout boy crouched on the ground in despair, crying bitterly in the heavy rain.

in a closed subway station, a woman crouched in the corner and cried.

the inspector touched the woman's head and said, "hurry home, your family is in a hurry."

the woman said, "I want to cry outside. I don't want to go home and cry to frighten my daughter."

her daughter is only a few months old.

on the long ladder, there are people carrying goods on their shoulders and holding children in their hands, but they can only earn 15 yuan on this trip.

all his wish is that children will not have to sell coolies to make a living in the future.

in the lively banquet hall, the rich are celebrating their children's birthday, while a clown sits in the corner. Behind the colorful paint, there is a tired soul. He also has children and wants to give them a warm birthday.

in order to do this, he must cheer up and please everyone.

if life is not too hard, who is willing to cry in public.

if it is not for the responsibility of the family, who is willing to ingratiate himself, smiling in front of people and sorrowful after others.

in the face of reality, we have been crushed to pieces countless times and spent the rest of our lives tinkering.

and all this happens quietly. When you shed tears, turn your head and what others see is only a figure.

some people say:

there is no such thing as "easy" in the adult world. They just pick up their own glass hearts and continue to run.

03

if life is too hard

, you might as well let yourself go

teacher Yang Jiang said in her speech on the 100th birthday:

Life is not as good as expected. The more we grow up, the more we find that we are really small in this world. Most of the time, the promise I made to my family and the desire for self-fulfillment can not be achieved.

at work, everyone has their own business, and no one will pay for you when they encounter problems.

after having children, they have to get up in the middle of the night to change diapers when they want to vomit, just so that the other half can sleep a little longer.

in front of parents, no matter how difficult it is, this end of the phone can only smile and say yes.

there are so many moments in life that we all want to cry, collapse, and escape from the world.

but when you can't hold it, someone always says in your ear, "what is this pain?"Don't be hypocritical, the hard times are yet to come.

so we swallowed the sorrow that had reached our throats, pretended to have sand in our wet eyes, and moved on with a smile.

emotion has really become a luxury.

but is this really right?

in recent years, there is a word called "sensible death", which means that you can only collapse quietly when you are extremely hurt, but you can only make sure that there are no consequences.

A few years ago, Cai Kangyong once interviewed Jackie Chan.

Cai Kangyong's first question is: "are you tired of making movies?"

just one sentence, let Jackie Chan cry for 15 minutes in the program. Cai Kangyong was at a loss for a moment.

the most desperate eldest brother in the film industry, the man who almost lost his life three times, took off all his camouflage and precautions because of such a simple question.

Liu Zhenyun said in "10,000 sentences per sentence":

We often do not understand why we still have to lose the most precious things even though we are working very hard.

but this is the truth of life.

in the face of reality, we have been crushed to pieces countless times and spent the rest of our lives tinkering.

so, living is actually living a state of mind. If life is too hard, we might as well let ourselves go; when we can't change the world, all we have to do is make peace with ourselves.

04

everything suffers

but

my friend Xiao Xu has been spoiled since he was a child.

three years ago, my family made venture capital and lost nearly NT $10 million overnight, and my father jumped off a building and committed suicide.

Xiao Xu ran away from home and hasn't been heard of for three days.

Family and friends are looking everywhere for fear that he won't get over it.

until one day, he came home late at night and knelt in front of his mother and burst into tears.

then he wiped his tears and said, "Mom, from tomorrow, I will carry this family."

later, I asked him where he had been these days.

he said he went to the construction site and the hospital.

at the construction site, he saw countless peasant boys of his age struggling to make a living in a pile of cement.

in the corridor of the hospital, he saw with his own eyes that someone was sent to the emergency room in a car accident, suffering a lot of pain, but desperately trying to survive.

people will encounter illness, unemployment, lovelorn and so on all their lives.

We also have the urge to travel alone, to be separated from them, and even to say goodbye to the world.

but the more bitter it is, the more it shows the hardness and brilliance of life.

there has never been a disaster-free life. The more difficult life is, the more splendid the heart will be.

there is a paragraph I like very much and agree with

in a bitter life, you should know how to let go of yourself, maybe cry and laugh;

in a rough life, you should know how to please yourself. Maybe it hurts.

in a confused world, you know how to release yourself, and maybe you will understand it if you endure it.

in the impermanent world, know how to forgive yourself, maybe those cruel memories will become memories.

for yourself and for your family, you have to be strong.

I know it's hard, but as long as you're alive, there's always a way.

really, there is no skill to live a good life, but to suffer clumsily.

May you face the light even if you are in the dark.