Even on the premise of marriage, I don't want to work with you. Remember three weird blind dates

01

after graduation, my mother's goal for me changed from getting married as soon as I graduated to going on a blind date as soon as I graduated.

because when I was at school, my eyes grew to the top of my head. I didn't like those who didn't study well, those who were bureaucratic in the student union, and those who were too sissy to learn English.

so I didn't find out until I graduated that my emotional experience was tragically zero.

so under the arrangement of my mother, I went on three blind dates in three months, all with a three-game losing streak.

my first blind date was the son of my mother's friend, Xiao Xiao.

Please allow me to give him this name to allay my hatred.

with the help of our parents, we added Wechat to each other, and then he directly asked me to meet him in a park. That day I wore what I thought was my best outfit after graduation: a denim shirt, gray short sleeves, black trousers, and a pair of canvas shoes.

now I feel that at that time, I should have dressed up as a poor student.

I arrived earlier than Xiao Xiao. When I saw a boy coming from afar, he was very short. At that time, I couldn't help but sigh: if I went to school, I wouldn't like this kind of person, but I can't help it. See you, my parents' orders.

Xiao Xiao came up to me, glanced at me, and said, "I'm too old to sit down and have a rest."

then he stopped looking at me and sat down on the edge of the flower bed.

I answered "yes" and sat next to him.

"I didn't want to come today. I was talking to someone. My mother didn't agree, so I came." He glanced at me.

"Oh." I don't know what to say.

"my date is very beautiful, and I am the cutest height difference." He shook his foot.

"in the past, I always brought my date here. She walked on the edge of the flower bed, like a child, and I helped her."

so what? I looked up at the sun and didn't know what to say. I sat upright and all I could think about was making a good impression.

then he went on and on about their wonderful past, and I listened like a little fool.

Yes, you heard me correctly. During the whole dating process, I had been listening to him talk about himself and his date. I sat with him for two hours!

Our collection of tea length formal dresses are bound to dazzle and bewitch you. There are all lengths and styles in our collection.

finally, he sent me a message saying: we are not suitable. At that time, my first feeling was: did I do something wrong?

02  

the second blind date was with the man I took the initiative to pursue. To put it bluntly, I was backward.

after the meeting, I was very nervous, because the first one failed, and I was afraid that the second one would not work.

so after saying goodbye for two hours, I couldn't help sending him Wechat: are you home yet?

I regretted it as soon as I finished it. Two hours later, the whole city can run back and forth.

"here we are." He replied, and I turned the chair around excitedly.

Why am I so active when I only meet him once? Because I feel that although this boy is four years older than me, he is very naive. According to him, he has never felt the love of his family since childhood, which evokes my motherhood and makes me feel that he is in great need of attention. The most important thing is that he is 1.85 meters tall and is a handsome guy, which makes me very happy.

for the next two months, I will get up two hours early every day to bring him breakfast, and then go to work. For sixty days, there was no wind or snow.

every time he watched the door for me sleepily and said, "come on in." Then he turned into the house and went back to sleep. he didn't even know what I bought him.

once, when his friend asked him out, he happened to meet me and asked me to go out to dinner. Of course, I was very happy and was about to say yes, but he immediately said, "she doesn't have time." Then, while getting dressed, he pushed me out of the door and closed the door.

I went to the door of his apartment and found that it was snowing too hard to walk.

that day, it was usually only three intersections. I walked for a whole hour and dared not touch my neck to keep warm, because the snow was so cold that I had to stay cold. At the third corner, I suddenly received a call from him: "where are you?"

I was moved to cry. I think he finally knew how to cherish my heart.

I was afraid that he would come to me and be cold, so I lied to him and said, "I'm almost home."

"Good!" Then came his friend's voice on the phone:

"Why, she didn't follow you." After that, there was laughter.

I walked home that day. For four hours, my eyelashes were frozen. I slept for a long time when I got home, and when I woke up, I deleted all his contact information.

A week later, I received a request from him to friend me on WeChat. I hesitated for a long time, but I chose to turn off my phone and failed. But when I was free, I couldn't help looking at his invitation.

in the end, I was afraid that I was not strong-willed, so I simply deleted his request.

03

the third blind date looks like a man of science and technology. Because I learned the lessons of the first two times, I began to respect my feelings. Probably because he broke away from the previous sense of inferiority, the whole person is more relaxed and easier to get in touch with.

on a date, the engineering man asked me, "where are we going to eat?"

"Hot pot."

"Don't eat. The hot pot is too low. Let's have steak. "

I've been thinking all the way, is it because he likes me that he wants to take me to eat what he thinks is the best? Or.

what he did and said later verified my guess.

"I am a fruit fan, and everything in my family belongs to Apple."

"my shoes are over a thousand."

"on my birthday, you should also buy me a decent present."

"I don't have any money for this meal. You pay for it."

I met the kind of person I was most afraid of, holding myself up and treating others as rubbish, too selfish, and too ignorant.

later, I experienced so many people that I could write a book. Most of them only met me once or got along for a few days.

some will pretend to answer the phone on a blind date, while I will finish the drink in the cup; some are willing to pick me up to and from work, but I choose to refuse directly.

during this period, I have also done stupid things, wasting other people's feelings and consuming both sides' time.

now I understand how many people my ignorance will hurt.

04

later, I met my present husband.

We met in Thailand, a place full of enthusiasm. I was leaning against the wall with a cigarette while he was smiling at the beautiful girl dancing on the stage. Unconsciously, we came together. Many people are not optimistic about him, saying that he is like a young man in society, hanging his eyes and looking like an old rascal.

but as soon as I saw him, I had a general judgment on him, and this man was reliable.

after returning home, he took me to a very expensive meal; he found time to travel with me as much as possible; he never bothered me when I was writing, and after I finished it, he would accompany me to go shopping; when I was with him, I didn't have to think about saying the wrong thing, and I didn't have to worry about my makeup.

yesterday I got a large sum of money and decided to treat him to a good meal. As soon as I finished, he pulled me downstairs. I said, "I haven't washed my face yet!"

"Don't wash it, it's fine."

so the two of us, with greasy heads and dazzled faces, appeared in the small supermarket downstairs, startled the two girls who were watching the store.

he took me by the hand and walked around the snack bar twice and asked, "do you want some ice?"

"No."

"then eat this." He pulled out a popsicle from a crack in the freezer and rushed out the door.

I went to the counter to pay one yuan.

when I was going out, he just broke the popsicle and handed me half of it. I took his arm while nibbling on a popsicle.

inadvertently, I saw the envious eyes of the two girls in the shop, and my eyes were wet.

05  my friend once asked me, "how did you know your husband was reliable at that time?"

I thought for a long time and asked them, "do you know what it feels like to be down-to-earth?"

they were stunned for a moment and did not speak.

just like my husband was singing and playing on the stage with a smile, I was drinking and smoking, but it didn't affect our perception of each other.

after returning to China, he only stayed at home every day, but I never smoked again.

I have experienced those people, we did not come together, because I am not mature enough, he is not mature enough, two immature people together, can not be perfect.

when one day, we recognize ourselves, understand our real needs, and know how to love ourselves, we will know how to love others.