Don't dig into the corner when something happens.

A few days ago, my friend asked me: I couldn't even think about something recently. Everyone else said it was okay, but she just couldn't do it. She couldn't get through, and it even affected her sleep for several days in a row.

instead of answering, I asked her a brain teaser:

she said, "is there a lock on the door?"

"No."

"which door lock is broken and jammed?"

"No."

"is that man too weak?"

"No."

she was discouraged and asked me for an answer. I smiled and said that the door was opened, not pushed.

01

the more you get into a corner, the more you can't get out of a dead-end.

is there a moment when you find yourself bothered by something and want to get out of it, but you can't get out of it?

I want to stop my mind and take my attention away from that, but you can't let it go.

it is not important, it is clear that the outcome has become a foregone conclusion, but the person who is most obsessed with it is still you.

it is only a small thing, but I have to magnify it with a microscope, hoping that the truth I have discovered will be in line with my imagination, but the more competitive I am, the more opposite the outcome will be.

this is not persistence, nor persistence, but driving one's heart and mind to a dead end, getting faster, more tired, more tired, more desperate, until he has no way out.

like an octopus.

an adult octopus can weigh at least 70 pounds and is one of the most ferocious and cunning creatures in the ocean.

its body is very soft and has no spine, but it has a strong ability to prey. As soon as the fish and shrimp approach, they will bite off their heads, inject venom, paralyze them to death, and then have a good meal.

but such a fierce and vicious guy has a very fatal weakness-he is addicted to utensils, especially small bottles.

fishermen take advantage of this characteristic of octopus to string small bottles together to sink to the bottom of the sea, imprisoning the invincible octopus in the ocean.

but is it a small bottle that imprisoned it? No, it's itself. It is its preference for small utensils and its obsession with "narrowness", which makes it go to a dead end with no exit, and can never go back to the vast world.

it's the same with people. When you feel bound, think carefully. Is it your family, your children, your partner, your loved ones, or yourself that bind you?

it is obvious that all roads lead to Rome, and there are 100 solutions to any difficult problem. If the door cannot be opened, we choose to open it, but when our hearts are locked by ourselves, it is no use to have more methods.

the more you like to cut corners, the more you can't get out of a dead-end.

02

turn when you can't get through, and put it down if you can't figure it out.

NASA has encountered such a problem: there is always something wrong with a certain part of an aircraft, either here or there.

they thought of a lot of ways and spent a lot of manpower, material resources, and energy, but they couldn't solve the problem until an engineer said, "can you take this part off?"

it turns out that this component is indeed redundant.

this is the case with many things. I let my thoughts stay at the same angle, and I can't turn around. I'm trying to find a solution, and I'm learning to think of others, but I can't go back to the way I can get through.

maybe we never imagined that some troubles are superfluous.

I often see a message from readers:

Uncle Fan, I have recently failed the exam. I think I am too bad, and my friends have also had a cold war with me.

Uncle Fan, my husband, and I quarreled. I am so sad that I have been suffering from insomnia in recent days, but he seems to be all right.

crying and complaining like this have been flooding our lives all the time.

some people think simply and live thoroughly. If they can't cross the road, they turn, and if they can't turn, they give up.

some people are sensitive and thoughtful, and they are accustomed to cutting corners. Others say forget it. He echoes it in his mouth, and the same thing is still going on in his head.

Zhou Guoping once said:

an important aspect of life wisdom is to distinguish between what you can control and what you cannot control.

for what you can't control, you can only let nature take its course.

for what you can control, you should work hard, and as for the result of your efforts, you might as well let nature take its course.

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people are too smart to live happily, too sensitive to live comfortably, and to persevere in the end is perfect, but it is futile to persevere in the end.

as Mr. Lao said,\ & quot; should leave leeway in everything. Don't be too hard on it. \ & quot;

people, when you come to the end of a bull's horn, you can only eat rotten meat. People with bad intentions also disgust themselves.

03

the mind is at ease, the talent is at ease

as the saying goes, those who have the heart are tired; those who don't care, it doesn't matter.

people who like to cut corners are not very happy.

when I have an annoyance, I pessimistically think that my whole life is bad.

if you make a mistake, you predict that you will make a mistake every time.

if you don't feel comfortable, how can you be comfortable?

the longer you drill the horn, the more you can't think about it, the more you can't think about it, and the more lifeless you will be.

I remember Cui Yongyuan interviewed the linguist Mr. Zhou Youguang and asked him how long he was. The secret of longevity.

Mr.

said, "always look forward and be open-minded."

Cui Yongyuan joked: "what if I can't get over it?"

Mr. Zhou replied, "if you turn a corner, you'll get over it."

if you can't get past the tip of the horn, you turn around, and if you can't go to a dead end, you turn around.

none of them is an absolute dead end. Most of the time, there is no point in trying to be brave. If you want to save face and suffer, you will feel more frustrated if you take your self-esteem too seriously.

it's no big deal to admit that you're wrong. If a man is not a saint, who can make mistakes?

if you lose this game, you can make a comeback in the next game. If luck doesn't fall here, it will always fall there. Don't set your limits. The sharp world is too small. Only by jumping out of the well can you see the various possibilities in the world.

80% of the problems are the state of mind. Only when the heart is solved, can people be relaxed, and when the heart is open, life can gradually become clear, and when the heart is at ease, people can live at ease.

encourage each other.