After giving birth, the husband asked for AA: the most important thing in marriage is not money, but these four things.

01

do you need AA to give birth and raise children?

I saw a piece of news a few days ago. Ms. Chen posted that she had agreed with her husband not to have children and that she would go AA after marriage, but her plan didn't change as quickly as she did. Later, when she had a baby, her husband still insisted on AA.

she said that she had just given birth for a month and took maternity leave at home, and her salary had shrunk sharply, leaving less than 300 yuan, excluding some basic living expenses and various expenses for the children. My husband earns 15000 a month.

forced by helplessness, Ms. Chen proposed that her husband should pay for the expenses in the past few months. Unexpectedly, the husband said yes, but since the AA system was agreed at the beginning, the extra money she paid was borrowed, and she would pay him back after her maternity leave.

Ms. Chen said that her husband didn't know how to be flexible, which made her feel cold.

netizens are even more shocked:

"this man is too accountant and too selfish. "

" husband and wife implement the AA system, which feels so strange and indifferent. "

perhaps it is the freedom of every couple to get along and live in what way they take after marriage.

however, no matter what approach you take, don't forget that it is only a form after all, and the essence of marriage is love and mutual achievement.

if you look closely, you will find that happy marriages and families are all "AA".

but instead of dividing material property, they share family responsibilities, support each other, meet the wind and rain together, and meet a better future together.

02

netizen Tang Qian's answer is hot:

this question is not asked properly, why do you say "share it for your wife"? Housework is not a natural obligation that the wife must bear fully.

the responsibilities and obligations of both parties in a family are not fixed. To earn money, cook, do housework, and serve the elderly, everyone can determine their own scope of responsibility through consultation, as long as they follow the principles of equality and joint efforts to run the family.

housework has never been the exclusive task of a wife. Mopping the floor, washing clothes and cooking with his wife has never been a man's "incompetence", but a man's responsibility.

as said in the short film "I never help my wife":

the husband never helps his wife with housework, because that's what he should do, and what the wife wants is never help, but respect and understanding, companionship.

if two people share the housework together, it doesn't have to be completely evenly distributed, as long as they work together and participate together, you wash the vegetables, I cook, and you mop the floor and I wipe the table.

this is the best interpretation of the AA system, and it is also the "secret" to keep the relationship heating up.

03

take care of the baby together.

is the least respect for the "AA system".

the year-end summary of my best friend is: my heart is so tired.

obviously, before marriage, she was a weak woman who could not unscrew the bottle cap, but she forced herself to live into a thousand troops in a few years.

she said that her increasingly deformed figure was not fat, but aggrieved.

as soon as I open my eyes every day, I make breakfast, see the kids off, and rush to work. No matter how much she endured by her boss, she had to drive around on time after work, pick up her son from the out-of-school tutoring class, buy food, cook and help with her homework.

if only "widowed parenting" is good, he is most afraid of her husband's "deceptive parenting":

if my son is ill, he will blame her for not taking care of her well;

if her son fails in the exam, he will blame her for her careless tutoring homework;

can't help yelling twice, he will blame her for not knowing how to control her emotions.

usually, men just go to work, and women have to take care of their children, cook, do housework and do homework in addition to going to work. None of the eighteen-athlete can be lost.

in fact, if couples take care of their children together, not only will their children be healthier and smarter, but the relationship between husband and wife will also climb to a higher floor.

as the mother of three boys, Chen Ruoyi has enough time for fitness, parties and beauty, thanks to her husband Lin Zhiying's care and company of the children.

he often goes Lego with his children, takes them to the park to recognize rocks, plays sofa cushion fights with them, and endures that children make their house look like a battlefield.

as long as he is at home, he will insist on sending kimi to school and chat with him before going to bed every night to learn about his thoughts.

in the final analysis, whether men are involved in the growth of their children has nothing to do with whether they are busy, rich or not, the key is to see whether they pay attention.

taking care of the children with his wife is the most basic respect for marriage.

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04

No matter what they do, they always focus on the feelings of their wives.

I still remember that during my pregnancy, I fell asleep gloomily after a quarrel with my husband over a trifle.

when I woke up the next morning, there was no one around me. In doubt, I saw a note that read:

"wife, I went to the hospital in advance to wait in line for the antenatal examination today. When it's almost your turn, I'll call you and call a car to pick you up in front of our unit. "

my son was born with a long process of labor, and he didn't sleep for two days and nights.

listening to my mother, he was outside the delivery room listening to my heartbreaking cries, burst into tears, and kept saying that he didn't want a second child.

when my son was 3 months old, the leader talked to him, in view of hisWork performance, decided to send him to the foreign head office for two years of training.

in the face of this opportunity that many people tried to fight for, he refused without thinking:

"although the job opportunity is rare, it will be a lifelong regret to miss the company of his wife and children during the critical period. "

through these small details, I can see the love in his heart. Although it is not touching heaven and earth, it also moistens things silently, allowing me to enjoy the warmth of the world at ease.

for the rest of my life, insipid is you, poverty is you, glory is you, tender heart is you, eyes are also you.

couples who know how to be grateful will doubly return each other's good, cherish each other and let their feelings flow.

every marriage begins with a grand wedding, in which the sentence "I would like to love and accompany her forever and never give up for the rest of my life" depends not only on love, but also on loving and cherishing each other no matter when and where.

05

surprise each other.

is the best sublimation of the "AA system"

in life, there are too many marriages, not from infidelity, domestic violence, or a third party, but from dull and hopeless day after day.

keep the ritual of life and surprise each other appropriately, which can make the calm marriage lake ripple with love and throw a touch of sweetness into the cup of boiled water.

in the fairy tale "the Little Prince", the little prince asks what the ceremony is, and the fox says:

"it distinguishes one day from another, and one moment from another.

in the intimate Inn, Liu Tao gave Wang Ke a collection of Weibo books since he opened his blog. Wang Ke deleted some Weibo contents a long time ago, but Liu Tao carefully preserved them, solidified them into words, and named them "my King".

Wang Ke's surname is Wang, and it is Wang who has the supreme position in his heart, so this "my king" is of great significance.

Wang Ke hugged his beloved wife again and again to show his gratitude.

and the ring that Wang Ke gave his wife is even more significant.

Liu Tao grew up with his grandmother from an early age and had more affection for his grandmother than his parents. Wang Ke's gift to his wife was a copy of her grandmother's relic ring, so that Liu Tao could wear it on her hand all the time to commemorate her grandmother.

Liu Tao was moved with tears streaming down his face.

Love is that I am willing to take care of the softness of your heart with my own strength. I would like to try my best to reduce your regret for life. The surprises you gave me brightened me for the rest of my life.

the splendid marriage life has always been created by two people working hard together.

06

in marriage, no matter what way you take to get along with each other, the first intention is to pursue family happiness. Against this original intention, everything is nonsense.

many people will say, life is so stressful, how can you be so fastidious?

in fact, the worse the external environment is, the more psychological support from close lovers is needed.

the more vulnerable you are, the more you need a secure arm.

the more stormy the sea, the more longing for a quiet harbor.

the more I can't see the dark night ahead, the more I yearn for a shimmer the size of a bean.

even if we have nothing in this world, at least we still have each other.

after graduation, my good friend Qiao Li went to work abroad. She and her husband have always been in a long-distance relationship. In 2011, she returned to China to end her 8-year long-distance relationship with her husband and returned to Beijing from abroad to become Beijing drifters, in financial distress.

on Valentine's Day, she opened the door and stepped on the rose petals that her husband had prepared for her. She walked into the house and saw her husband lying on the bed with a rose in his mouth and jazz on the speaker.

my husband spent a total of 50 yuan to prepare the surprise, but she still remembers every detail.

Happiness is not a utopia, it is every moment that is seen.

husband and wife are willing to share housework, participate in the growth of their children, love each other and surprise each other, which is the deepest "encounter" of each other.

if you are an oak tree, I will be the kapok near you,

root, clenched in the ground,

leaves, touch in the cloud,

every gust of wind blows, we greet each other.

May every couple cherish the original intention of "being together" to practice a promise that "white heads will not part with each other", share cold waves, thunder and thunder, share haze, haze and neon lights, and grow old together.